Baby Names

Okay, so I really thought that my first post on baby names would be a nice one...nope, not at all. I wanted to think of names, and he said it was too early. I couldn't stop my brain from coming up with names until there were no more. And I came up with names that I was hell bent on. Now here we are, he doesn't like my names we've gone through a couple of them, decided on initials to narrow it down blah blah blah, and now we are having a last name dilemma. I've always wanted my kids to have my last name. Even if I was married, I just love my last name. I wanted to hyphenate it, and if i got married I'd do the same to mine. Now we're having a big issue on that and it's really bothering me. At first we decided to have both. his first because it just sounded better. But then later he comes to me and says my mom thinks that my name should be last because it should be the last last name. The Last of the LAST names. I said that's nice. Because whenever someone stresses me out his response is its not their kid and there opinions don't matter. But when u come to me a few days later and ask have I thought about your question then you make it seem like it was your idea or you had some feelings about the decision  not you mother. SO now he is saying that his father feels like my name shouldn't be in it at all. But you wanna turn down the names that I've fallen in love with and my last name and I'm not trying to argue or stress and I'm learning to pick my battles but something I feel so strongly about and you're not even being supportive of my first names but you think I'm going to let you family be the dominant reigning one? NO.
 If I could be like Lorelei from Gilmore Girls and make her/him a junior with my name not his I would d. But i don't particularly like my first name to well anyway. I hate the way women are treated when it comes to family making and name say. I'm not married, I was not doing this to expand on the family that I've built. Meaning, I don't have his last name so neither shall my children. Spanish countries have more than one last name so why can't I and my children.
I know that I'm basically just repeating myself at this point but I don't know how to explain what I'm feeling. I'm hurt, sad frustrated and a little angry.
I'm hurt because i feel like all the work that I've done creating life doesn't matter. I'm sad because I just want someone to say, okay, I know that I work all day but she can't do anything because she's sitting in the house making a baby. SO of course all i have is baby on the brain. i have nothing else to do. I'm frustrated because I just keep repeating myself but no one seems to be taking anything in. And I'm angry because him and I had this conversation as parents and now other people get to influence his opinions but not mine. If my parents opinions at the end of the day don't matter neither do yours.